Why talk TO babies?

Have you noticed how we often speak about babies as if they aren’t even there—even while holding them in our arms? In our culture we don't think babies understand, so we speak about them in the third person. And this habit can linger well into toddlerhood or even beyond.

But what if we did the opposite? What if we spoke to babies, treating them as the fully present, aware little humans they are?

I wonder how this simple shift might deepen the bond between parents and their babies. Would we still need endless debates about responding to babies at night or letting them cry? Would we find it easier to interpret their cues and meet their needs?

I think about mums deciding to stop breastfeeding, discussing it in front of their babies, and then noticing their babies suddenly refusing to nurse. The fact is babies are aware. They’re listening, observing, and experiencing everything.

What if we started treating them as whole people from the start? Explaining things as we picked them up, changed their nappies, or moved them. Avoiding discussions about them right in front of them.

I remember feeling like an outcast when I explained to my own babies what I was doing, but I’ve seen how powerful it is. Talking to them builds trust, lessens frustration, and helps them feel safe and respected. Over time, it even makes everyday care-giving tasks, like dressing or changing nappies, smoother.

For example, instead of scooping up a baby and dressing as if they're a doll, we can say, “I’m going to put your clothes on—can you straighten your arm for this sleeve?” Before long, babies start surprising us, eagerly helping out and showing more agency over their own bodies.

This isn’t just about making life easier. It’s about teaching consent from day one. Babies who are treated with respect grow up understanding boundaries and trust.

It might feel odd at first, but the rewards are incredible. Are you willing to give it a try? You might be amazed at the difference. 💛