The root of most “misbehaving”

Something I’ve learned in my seven years of parenting (and six years of mentoring parents) is that many of the behaviours we find challenging in children are caused by them not crying enough:

That “resisting” sleep loop.
The waking up fifty times a night because "the duvet is twisted!" 
The buzzing, can’t-sit-still energy.
The bickering that never ends.
The hitting, pinching, scratching, kicking…

You name it, the cause is the same: pent-up feelings that haven't been expressed

You name it, the cause is the same: pent-up feelings that haven't been expressed.

When feelings build up, it becomes harder for their bodies to truly relax.
Harder to pay attention.
Harder to focus.
Harder to learn.
Harder to fall asleep and stay asleep.
Harder to feel present in their own body. 

And if you’ve been in this community for a while, you’ve probably experienced this:

You know,  with every cell in your body, that what your child really needs is a good cry. 
But they just.
won’t.
cry.

And then you catch yourself wishing you could gently squeeze the tears out, like emotional toothpaste. Except you can’t. Meanwhile your child is bouncing off the walls like a shaken bottle of soda. 

This is exactly why I created Tears Without Fear - a course to help you understand what’s stopping the crying, how to invite release without forcing it, and how to shift from firefighting behaviour to supporting real emotional healing.